Child-Focused Separation,
From Conflict to Co-operation

A calm, practical guide to helping you and your child through the challenges and uncertainty of separation.

For Separating Parents and Those Who Support Them

Separation can be one of the most difficult transitions a parent will face—especially when communication is strained and conflict continues after separation.

Many parents find themselves trying to navigate emotional conversations, uncertainty about their child’s wellbeing, and the challenge of creating stability across two homes.

This book walks beside you during separation offering a calm, practical guide to help you shift beyond the conflict, to focus on what matters most—your child’s wellbeing—while finding a more constructive way forward.

It supports you to:

reduce conflict between separated parents
understand what your child may be experiencing
communicate more effectively in difficult situations
create practical, child-focused parenting arrangements
move toward a more stable and cooperative future

What You’ll Discover inside this book

The book provides a complete roadmap for the path ahead:

Communication & Emotional Health: Practical guidance on talking to your children (Chapter 4), managing your own emotional rollercoaster (Chapter 5), and building healthy boundaries.
Navigating Two Homes & Logistics: Age-appropriate care, transitions, routines (Chapters 6 & 11), and creating a safe Parenting Plan built on common ground (Chapter 12).
Managing Complex Dynamics: Expert insight on extended family (Chapter 8), mediation & FDR (Chapter 13), early intervention (Chapter 14), and navigating court processes or family violence when safety is a priority (Chapters 15 & 16).
Building a Lasting Legacy: Practical tools to break negative cycles and ensure your children feel safe, loved, and supported across both homes (Chapters 17–19).

28-Day Peace of Mind Guarantee

We want you to feel fully supported when navigating your family’s transition. If Child-Focused Separation doesn’t provide you with practical, grounded tools to help lower conflict and support your children, simply reach out within 28 days for a full refund of your purchase price. No complicated steps, just our commitment to supporting your family.

For Professionals

Currently used as a core training resource in Family Dispute Resolution (FDR) training, and recommended to students to provide to all parents they will work with, Child-Focused Separation, From Conflict to Co-operation provides a practical, unique and essential guide.

If you work with separating families, this book is designed to support your clients through the journey of separation — helping them better understand their child’s experience and engage more constructively in the process.

It recognises the emotional realities clients bring into legal, mediation, and support settings, and offers a clear, practical path forward that can reduce conflict and improve communication.

You are very welcome to refer clients directly to this resource.

Visit hamptonsecrets.com.au to order or enquire about bulk copies. Or contact me directly at hello@hamptonsecrets.com.au

Reviews

“This highly readable and informative book will help separated parents set aside their conflict to focus on the needs of their children for security, love, and stability across two homes”

Terry Sheahan AO, Mediation pioneer and current patron of ADRA

“I have shared with Legal Aid Queensland and private profession colleagues. I feel certain that this may become a valuable resource for some people involved in separation, and their supporters.”

Darren Lewis, Legal Professional, QLD

“An excellent resource I’d recommend to clients — it identifies potential problems and offers practical solutions for both cooperative and uncooperative parenting situations.”

Tony Phillips, Family Lawyer Accredited Specialist | Managing Director, Phillips Family Law

Meet the author
Naomi Holtring MDR

Naomi holds a Master’s Degree in Dispute Resolution and has spent decades guiding families through the difficult and emotional realities of separation. Her expertise lies in helping parents create a safe space to step back from the conflict, lower the tension, and enable meaningful communication that ensures their children feel loved and cared for by both parents as their family changes.

Her work bridges the gap between deep conflict and a family’s day-to-day well-being. Naomi is dedicated to helping parents see that how they handle separation today, sets their children up to handle their own feelings, solve problems, and build healthy relationships for their family’s future.

Child-Focused Separation, From Conflict to Co-operation